Metamour — a person your partner is dating, but with whom you yourself have no romantic relationship.
What it means
Relationships with a metamour can be very different. Some become close friends and spend time together (this warm configuration is sometimes called “kitchen table”), while others barely cross paths, following a “parallel” approach to their connections. Neither option is the one right way — it all depends on what is comfortable for everyone involved. Healthy communication with a metamour helps reduce anxiety, dispel fantasies and build trust across the whole network of relationships. Even if close friendship does not develop, basic goodwill and respect make life calmer for everyone. The word itself is formed from the prefix “meta-” and the Latin “amor” (love).
Example
Katya has a partner, Dima, and Dima has another girlfriend, Sonya. For Katya, Sonya is a metamour: they are not a couple, but they sometimes cross paths at shared gatherings and treat each other warmly.
Related terms
Polyamory, Compersion, Triad
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